Sometimes I sit down in front of the computer knowing that I will be writing today but not knowing where to start. I've had a Superhero with a ton of fluid in his ears the past few nights so I'm waking up at 4 a.m. and not getting back to sleep. He's tired and a bit off and so am I. Everyday, I've been praying for a good attitude and patience. That I could parent my kids with the grace and patience that I want to be treated with. And you know what? It's worked for the most part. I'm not at 100% right now but I do feel I'm being given divine patience and grace when I've needed it most.
Superhero #2 is in that lovely age of 2 when communication is just starting to cement itself. He's learning how to say what he wants or needs and to express and identify his emotions in a healthy way. This is being extrinsically taught by his Mama and Daddy. When he "gets" it I am so excited. I praise him. I reinforce the behavior. I identify and label what he's done. When he doesn't and a time-out ensues or his favorite toys are taken away and one by one put on top of the fridge for a period of time. That's when the grace comes into play.
Today he was losing it. One by one, he lost 2 trains, Lightning McQueen, his blankies, his school bus. He was spiraling and I knew that he needed a time-out but it couldn't be one alone because he didn't have the capacity to rein himself in. So I sat in the timeout chair. I held him. I quietly told him I loved him even when he's mad and throwing things. I said, "I love you when you're mad. I love you when your sad. I love you when you're happy. I love you when you're silly." I kissed him and said he needed to calm down before he could leave the chair. He needed to use words to tell me what he needed. When I'm having a crummy day. That's what I want. I want someone to hold me and listen to me tell them what I need. And he did. Just by that simple act...he calmed down and was able to rejoin his brother for book time.
I love being a mom. But that patience...that's from the Divine. That's not me.
I can make some divine Pecan Coconut muffins with dried cranberries in them. Here's a link to the site, Deliciously Organic that I got them from. I changed the sweetener to maple syrup and the butter to coconut oil due to our lactose intolerance. The maple added a great flavor complement to the pecans. The only thing I added were the cranberries but you could do without them. This takes them out of the paleo/primal category due to the sugar on the cranberries but I tried to use them moderately and you could use other dried fruit. I had to throw a recipe in. Parenting and finding new recipes are two of the things I live for. Enjoy!
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